A few years ago the beloved captain of my daughter's basketball team called me a cool mom.
Ugh! Cool mom?
All I could picture was her.
Who can forget Amy Poehler's character passing out alcohol and condoms to her teen daughter's girlfriends, desperate to be liked.
I was mortified and offended.
My daughter thought it was hilarious.
It didn't spark a whole lot of soul-searching on my part, primarily because the thought has NEVER been on my radar. If anything, my family scoffs at my UNcoolness!
But in a quest for self-awareness, I had to at least think things through.
Yes, I am on the younger side when it comes to moms with kids in college.
I do love to laugh, go to concerts, and dance and sing like a fool when I get there.
And I do like my pop music loud.
|Chicago airport antics|
Dang. Does that make me a cool mom?
And why does it bother me so in the first place?
I guess I simply loathe how that label insinuates one is *trying* to be cool. As though she could care less how her kids turn out, as long as they're all BFF's.
Listen, I may love hanging out with John, Nicole, and Luke, but I can be one tough cookie when it comes to things that REALLY matter, like working hard, being kind, having a positive attitude, believing in God who deeply loves us and commands us to love others. They still verbally flog me for making them take music lessons. And I'm a grammar nazi to boot!
|John's high school graduation. Best speech ever!|
I prefer to think I'm just a grown-up girl who has been INTENTIONAL about having a better mother-child relationship than the one I had.
My sweet mother's already passed away, but I think she'd be okay if I told you she was quite shy and that we didn't have too much in common when I was in high school.
I preferred to spend every spare second with my crazy friends and THEIR families.
So does it make me a cool mom to crave the opposite?
I don't think so.
I do know this: my number one goal is to raise caring human beings who know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, they are deeply loved.
I think that makes me a GOOD mom.
And you know what?
I think that's pretty cool.